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Why Do I Keep Doing This?

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Many of us were told to stuff our feelings down when we were younger. We were taught that our emotional reactions should be controlled so we didn't embarrass or upset our parents. However, if that control oozes over into our adult relationships, it's considered a bad thing. Controlling our friends or romantic partners is seen as toxic. Some sides of control are meant to keep us safe, while others harm connections. So, what are we supposed to do?

In Why Do I Keep Doing This? licensed therapist Kati Morton explores this common struggle. She shows how our anxiety is often connected to feeling like we are too much or less deserving of time and care. Difficulties with asserting ourselves, or taking what we require, can harm our development and we sometimes think the only way to feel okay is to please everyone else first. Why Do I Keep Doing This? is a vital tool in helping us understand why control can be so attractive, but if left unmonitored can become detrimental to our lives. We all go through tough times, but we have to notice what behaviours are holding us back and change them.

Why Do I Keep Doing This? will shed light on shared struggles as readers follow Kati through key points of growth in her own life, while incorporating what she has learned as a therapist and content creator who knows how to create lasting healthy change. This book will give readers the ability to not only ask themselves why do I keep doing this? but also have the insight to find a real answer.

Critics Review

This book made me stop and look at the ways I've tried to keep myself safe that are no longer serving me. Kati doesn't shame us for our coping - she helps us understand it. That alone is healing.
Jonathan Van Ness
A powerful guide to breaking free from the exhausting cycle of control and stepping into a life built on trust, resilience, and self-acceptance.
Jay Shetty, #1 New York Times bestselling author and host of the On Purpose podcast
Author Kati Morton
Narrator Kati Morton
Duration 6 hours and 47 minutes
Release Date
ISBN 9781035422029
Format Audiobook
Publisher Headline
Genre Assertiveness, motivation, self-esteem and positive mental attitude, Personality traits, Positive psychology, Practical advice: Life hacks / handy tips
Availability AU, GB, IE

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