McKinney has written this book to prove that gossip isn’t just bitchy women with raised eyebrows exchanging each other’s secrets like currency. It’s a vital means of communication, and part of an ancient tradition of oral storytelling…This book is not simply a manual for those who like to harvest facts about their former friends on Facebook. Sure, it uses the Barbie film as a serious scientific case study, but it’s also sharp-witted and thoroughly researched. There’s history, theology, legal cases, a detailed physiology of the ear. Most usefully, McKinney convincingly proves that gossiping is a legitimate part of modern life

Come for Kelsey McKinney’s alluring voice, stay for her brilliant insights about words, secrets, gender, shame, pop culture, and technology. McKinney is not only our generation’s most beloved raconteuse, she is a rigorous and deeply thoughtful writer who can quote Emily Dickinson and Doja Cat on the same page and make a reader feel both delighted and challenged to come along for the ride. You Didn’t Hear This From Me is cogent and sharp, and I will be whispering around town about it for a long time.

Totally brilliant. With the buoyant curiosity that makes her so beloved, Kelsey McKinney dishes an elegant treatise on gossip as an engine of both personal intimacy and cultural sea change. Incisive and vulnerable, gentle yet uncompromising, McKinney stakes a place among the best cultural critics of the age, without ever losing her sense of fun. I loved this book

I devoured this book like it was a series of 4-minute voice memos about someone Kelsey and I vaguely know. Her meditations on gossip — sometimes a powerful force for good, sometimes a sign of a diseased culture — are, like the best gossip, so fun.

You Didn’t Hear This is a beautiful, expansive ode to the joy of information exchange. An ode that, like the practice of gossip itself, can be all at once inviting, tender, enlivening, and rich with humor, complexity, and an abundance of joys