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The Art of Showing Up

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What to expect

When it comes to adult friendships, we're woefully inept - we barely manage to show up for our own commitments, let alone maintain our relationships. Even before self-isolation we were experiencing a loneliness epidemic: we communicate through texts and emojis, and rear away in horror from an unsolicited phone call, even if it's from our mum. Flaking out on plans is routine, both online and off.

The Art of Showing Up offers a roadmap through this morass, to true connection with your friends, family and yourself. Rachel Wilkerson Miller teaches that 'showing up' means connecting with others in a way that make them feel seen and supported. And that begins with showing up for yourself: recognising your needs, understanding your physical and mental health, and practising self-compassion. Only then can you better support other people; witness their joy, pain and true selves; validate their experiences; and help ease their burdens.

Critics Review

Rachel's advice is smart, straightforward, and empathetic. The Art of Showing Up offers a roadmap to becoming a better friend and happier person. Read this book!
Alison Green, author of Ask a Manager
This is an incredibly practical book full of easy, yet meaningful, ways to develop more friendship and love in your life. Through steps that anyone can do, Rachel helps us find the support that we all crave in our lives and leaves us feeling ever more hopeful!
Shasta Nelson, author of Frientimacy
Rachel Wilkerson Miller has given us a toolbox for strengthening our relationships with one another and with ourselves. This book is the resource that twenty-, thirty-, and fortysomethings were missing-and that we didn't know we absolutely needed.
Caroline Moss, coauthor of Hey Ladies! and host of Gee Thanks, Just Bought It!
Miller has penned a fresh, wise, practical, modern guide for figuring out how to be true to yourself while also meaningfully connected to others. An important contribution to the larger, complicated project of solving loneliness.
Priya Parker, author of The Art of Gathering
Journalist Rachel Wilkerson Miller gives great advice about being honest when people ask how you're doing, plus a detailed guide to how to show up for people in small and large ways.
NPR Life Kit
An easy, entertaining guide to adult friendships. . . . [Miller's] charismatic voice will appeal to any reader of self-help. Those looking for help braving the social unknown will want to take a look.
Publishers Weekly
Author Rachel Wilkerson Miller
Narrator Robin Ray Eller
Duration 10 hours and 6 minutes
Release Date
ISBN 9781409199168
Format Audiobook
Publisher Orion
Genre Self-help, personal development and practical advice
Availability AU, GB, IE

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