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The Four Thoughts That F*ck You Up … and How to Fix Them

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Whatever life throws at you, learn to deal with it in a healthier and more rational way.


When it comes to destructive emotions and unhelpful behaviours, you are your own worst enemy. Rather than people or situations driving you to depression, distraction or doughnuts, all too often it’s your own unhealthy beliefs and thought habits that hold you back and f**k everything up. But, what can you do about it?

Highly Experienced REBT (Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy) psychotherapist Daniel Fryer can stop these thoughts from messing up your life using a simple but effective model.

In The Four Thoughts that F**k You UpAnd How to Fix Them he reveals the four unhealthy beliefs that hold you back (Dogmatic Demands, Dramas, I Can’t Copes and Pejorative Put-Downs) and shows you how to replace them with four healthy beliefs (Flexible Preferences, Perspectives, I Can Copes and Unconditional Acceptance) – in as little as six weeks. Yes, you read that right: Just six weeks to a new you.

Developed in the mid-fifties by psychotherapist Albert Ellis, REBT is known as the first form of cognitive behaviour therapy (CBT). Not only is it an effective therapy, but it’s also an excellent philosophy for every day life. With this model, Daniel will help you identify a specific personal challenge and then reframe how you react to it, leading to a calmer, happier you. This approach is especially helpful if you struggle with stress, anxiety, depression, anger or self-doubt, or if you want to improve your relationships with family, colleagues and peers or, simply, yourself.

When you free your mind from the thoughts that f**k you up, you’ll never look at anything the same way again. Want to get started?

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Banish those toxic thoughts for good

The Sun
Author Daniel Fryer
Narrator Max Dinnen
Duration 7 hours and 31 minutes
Release Date
ISBN 9781473576629
Format Audiobook
Publisher Ebury Publishing
Genre Mind, body, spirit: thought and practice, Popular medicine and health, Popular psychology, Self-help, personal development and practical advice
Availability AU, GB, IE, US

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