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The Four Tendencies

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THE NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER

OBLIGER? REBEL? QUESTIONER? UPHOLDER? Which one are you?

Everyone falls into 1 of 4 personality types and knowing yours could make you happier and more successful.During her investigation to understand human nature, explored most recently in her bestselling Better Than Before, Gretchen Rubin realised that by asking the seemingly dry question 'How do I respond to expectations?' we gain life changing self-knowledge.

She discovered that based on their answer, people fit into Four Tendencies: Upholders, Questioners, Obligers, and Rebels. Our Tendency shapes every aspect of our behaviour, so using this framework allows us to make better decisions, meet deadlines, suffer less stress, and engage more effectively.

More than 800,000 people have taken her online quiz, and managers, doctors, teachers, spouses, and parents already use the framework to help people make significant, lasting change.

The Four Tendencies hold practical answers if you've ever thought...
- People can rely on me, but I can't rely on myself
- How can I help someone to follow good advice?
- People say I ask too many questions
- How do I work with someone who refuses to do what I ask - or who keeps telling me what to do?

With sharp insight, compelling research, and hilarious examples, The Four Tendencies will help you get happier, healthier, more productive, and more creative.

'I love Gretchen Rubin - she helps me understand both myself and the people around me' CATHY RENTZENBRINK, OBLIGER
'If you want to change anything in your life you need Gretchen Rubin' VIV GROSKOP, REBEL


ALSO BY GRETCHEN RUBIN
Outer Order Inner Calm: declutter and organize to make more room for happiness

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Better Than Before: learn how to make good habits and break bad ones, for good

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Happier At Home: a year-long experiment in making the everyday extraordinary
Author Gretchen Rubin
Narrator Gretchen Rubin
Duration 6 hours and 38 minutes
Release Date
ISBN 9781473665668
Format Audiobook
Publisher John Murray Press
Genre Advice on careers and achieving success, Popular psychology, Psychology, Self-help, personal development and practical advice
Availability AU, GB, IE

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