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Missing Out
- Author
- Adam Phillips
- Narrator
- Mike Cooper
- Publisher
- Blackstone Publishing
- Publish Date
- 5 May 2026
- Run Time
- 4 hours 46 minutes
- Format
- Audiobook
What to expect
A transformative book about the lives we wish we had and what they can teach use about who we are
All of us lead two parallel lives: the one we are actively living, and the one we feel we should have had or might yet have. As hard as we try to exist in the moment, the unlived life is an inescapable presence, a shadow at our heels. And this itself can become the story of our lives: an elegy to unmet needs and sacrificed desires. We become haunted by the myth of our own potential, of what it might be that we have in ourselves to be or to do. Our lives become testaments to our missed opportunities.
But what happens if we remove the idea of failure from this equation? With his flair for graceful paradox, the acclaimed psychoanalyst Adam Phillips suggests that if we accept frustration as a way of outlining what we really want, satisfaction suddenly becomes possible. To crave a life without frustration is to crave a life without the potential to identify and accomplish our desires.
In this elegant, compassionate, and absorbing book, Phillips draws deeply on his own clinical experience as well as on the works of Shakespeare and Freud, of Donald Winnicott and William James, to suggest that missing out, getting away with it, and not getting it are all chapters in our unlived lives—and may be essential to the one fully lived.
Critics Review
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“A wonderfully concise appeal for presentness…elegantly stated.”
The Boston Globe
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“Missing Out is [Adam Phillips’s] most poetic, paradoxical, repetitive, and punning yet; he doesn’t argue in a linear fashion but nestles ideas within ideas, like Russian dolls.”
The New York Times Book Review
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Details
- Author
- Adam Phillips
- Narrator
- Mike Cooper
- Duration
- 4 hours 46 minutes
- Release Date
- 5 May 2026
- ISBN
- 9798228760486
- Format
- Audiobook
- Publisher
- Blackstone Publishing
- Genre
- Psychotherapy, Psychology, Social and political philosophy
Synopsis
A transformative book about the lives we wish we had and what they can teach use about who we areAll of us lead two parallel lives: the one we are actively living, and the one we feel we should have had or might yet have. As hard as we try to exist in the moment, the unlived life is an inescapable presence, a shadow at our heels. And this itself can become the story of our lives: an elegy to unmet needs and sacrificed desires. We become haunted by the myth of our own potential, of what it might be that we have in ourselves to be or to do. Our lives become testaments to our missed opportunities.But what happens if we remove the idea of failure from this equation? With his flair for graceful paradox, the acclaimed psychoanalyst Adam Phillips suggests that if we accept frustration as a way of outlining what we really want, satisfaction suddenly becomes possible. To crave a life without frustration is to crave a life without the potential to identify and accomplish our desires.In this elegant, compassionate, and absorbing book, Phillips draws deeply on his own clinical experience as well as on the works of Shakespeare and Freud, of Donald Winnicott and William James, to suggest that missing out, getting away with it, and not getting it are all chapters in our unlived lives—and may be essential to the one fully lived.
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